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The Value of Mindfulness in Approaching Legal Problems

Mindfulaw provides a forum for individuals facing challenging legal situations to use these challenges as a springboard to personal transformation and heightened inner peace.  Mindfulaw starts from the premise that the vast majority of legal problems faced by individuals are the direct result of learned conditioning and habitual reactions to thoughts of how life should be, instead of embracing present-moment experience apart from ego-driven thoughts about that experience.  Not only do these conditioned, thought-driven reactions serve to muddle decision making when clarity is needed most, but these same reactions are often responsible for bringing about undesirable life circumstances in the first instance.

Recognizing these dynamics, I work with clients through mindfulness exercises and practice to begin to loosen the grip of  egoistic, thought-driven behavior.  In doing this, my clients become better able to approach their situations with far more clarity and wisdom.  We become able to identify optimal solutions to these challenging situations far more likely to meet the interests of all involved.

This improved clarity and ability to connect to present-moment experience (and dis-identify from conditioned thought and habitual reactions) will not only lead to better legal solutions, but can serve as a foundation for personal happiness long after your legal issues have been resolved.

To learn more about the incorporation of mindfulness in law practice, please give me a call at (415) 508-6263 or visit http://www.mindfulaw.com.

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The Role of Identity in Dealing With Divorce and Custody Litigation

In terms of legal disputes, clients appear to have the greatest psychological difficulty dealing with divorce and custody proceedings. This is of little surprise when one views these situations in the more holistic context of the individual’s adopted self-concept. Divorce and custody proceedings upset a wide range of the most central roles of individuals in our society including those of parent, spouse, and provider. In addition, divorce and custody disputes very often have real negative financial implications for the parties, potentially further eroding one’s fragile ego during this time.

The extent to which clients are able to successfully deal with these situations is largely a function of the extent to which he or she has come to identify with these roles as who he or she is, i.e., as forming the basis of a self-concept. Those who have come to consciously recognize these roles as such, instead of defining factors of who one is, may proceed through these challenges far less shaken as they remain grounded in a sense of being at one with life that extends far beyond him or her as an individual form.

In this way, legal challenges can provide unique opportunities to recognize the extent to which our conditioned reactions have been dictated by ego-identification with these roles and responsibilities as the providers of a “self” that the ego will vigilantly try to maintain during stressful and upsetting times.

To learn more about incorporating mindfulness into law practice in a way that facilitates this process, contact Attorney Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.mindfulaw.com.

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A Mindful Approach to Divorce and Child Custody

Few life situations present as much challenge in a legal context as divorce involving young children. Along with innate drives to nurture and care for our children are entrenched self-concepts built around identities a a parent, a wife, a husband, etc., that become threatened. All of this takes place while spouses try to deal with very real financial challenges and changes to daily routines, friends, etc. The typical way in which the ego reacts to these largely thought-driven concepts is to become defensive and do what it perceives as necessary to protect its identity.

It is little surprise, as the ego wages its battle for survival, that parents come to experience inner conflict and confusion as on some level they sense that their defensive reactions, aimed at preserving the self-concept, are at odds with the best interests of the children.

In this context, mindfulness can be seen as the antidote to habitual reactions and conditioned responses aimed at ego preservation. Heightened present-moment awareness and consciousness cultivated through mindfulness practice, is a primary means through which one may begin to dis-identify from ego-driven thoughts such as “how things must be,” “how things are wrong,” etc., and begin to access an inner wisdom far more conducive to identifying an optimal course of action able to serve the best interests of all involved, including children and parents.

Unfortunately, our civil justice system is largely built on an adversarial model often serving to intensify conditioned responses springing from egoic notions that “I am right, you are wrong,” etc. In this way, the prevailing system often succeeds in amplifying the most negative aspects of one’s personality.

One common belief about a holistic approach to divorce is that both spouses must be open to this mindful approach as a means of working through this situation in an optimal fashion. Often, however, it only takes one spouse to embrace this approach and work towards dis-identifying from his or her habitual reactions. When one spouse becomes able to do this, he or she stops fueling a fire contributing to the escalation of destructive responses in the other spouse. Within this dynamic change the other spouse may begin to let go of his or her conditioned responses and work toward the best solution for all involved.

To learn more about mindful approaches to divorce and child custody, contact Attorney Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.mindfulaw.com.

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The Clash of Mindfulness and Law

Inherent in contemporary American jurisprudence is the notion of ultimate judgment. By its nature, our adversarial system ultimately adjudges one party “right,” and the other party “wrong,” or some variation on that theme. In contrast, mindfulness emphasizes the importance of letting go of the judging and comparing mind in favor of a non-dualistic connection to all of life.

The dualistic nature of our traditional adversarial system can deeply, and unconsciously, effect individual litigants as well as participating attorneys who, almost by ethical mandate, are obligated to embrace the polarized stance of their clients and vigorously advance that position within broad ethical parameters. In this light, it is little wonder that most attorneys harbor a deep dissatisfaction with their professional lives. Even “victorious” litigants are often left feeling hollow and unsatisfied in the wake of an adversarial battle.

The integration of mindfulness in law practice helps participants begin to let go of these entrenched dualistic notions. In coming to further embrace the interconnectedness of all living things, a deeper wisdom surfaces, together with invigorated compassion. Creative solutions can then begin to surface unbound from dualistic notions that “things should be this or that way,” that “I am right and he is wrong,” etc.

Solutions emanating from this more connected and open space are far more likely to produce optimal results for all involved parties. Such solutions may even leave the parties more fulfilled, happy, and peaceful than they were prior to the manifestation of their legal issues. Attorneys can discover a renewed sense of purpose and motivation for their professional work.

To learn more about mindfulness in law practice, contact Attorney Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263 or visit http://www.mindfulaw.com.

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The Mindfulness Formula for Transformative Litigation

In cultivating a heightened ability to dis-identify from conditioned thought and judgment and more meaningfully attend to present-moment experience, one can begin to sense the richness of life and the interconnectedness we share with all living beings. This felt sense of interconnectedness is a precursor of compassion towards all living things. In the context of legal issues – especially those “adversarial” in nature – it is this sense of compassion that can ultimately give rise to optimal solutions that are far more likely to restore the parties to greater inner peace and happiness.

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The Role of Mindfulness in Civil Litigation

Most civil litigation whether divorce, employment, business-related, etc., involves at its core a claim by one party that the opposing party failed to conform his/her/its behavior to a certain expected standard of the aggrieved party. Since so much civil litigation involves parties with some preexisting level of familiarity with opposing parties, there is usually some ego investment in the relationship between the litigants. Because this ego investment is so often intertwined with one’s “self-concept,” civil litigation tends to elicit defensive and reactive behavior patterns that serve to significantly cloud decision-making.

Mindfulness can serve as a powerful antidote to these often unhelpful reactions springing from conditioned thought. In cultivating a heightened ability to more meaningfully connect with present-moment experience (as opposed to having this experience hijacked by thoughts, judgments and expectations about this experience) clients become more likely to discover a sense of inner wisdom far more open to solutions and approaches obscured while ensnared in habitual reactive patterns.

Clients often will approach an attorney in an initial consultation by clearly stating that “I know what I want.” What he or she is often unaware of, however, is that in the absence of mindfulness, what he or she is likely articulating is likely to be ego-driven needs to “be right,” “take the high road,” not to be deprived of what I am due,” etc. The attorney is likely to be instructed to obtain this articulated result for the client, and will embark on a course of action borne of the attorney’s conceived strategy which, by definition, is deprived of any real sense of the intricacies of the relationship between the parties. Unfortunately, it is often within these intricacies that optimal solutions and approached can be found, and the client is in the best position to access these solutions through the cultivation of mindful attention to his or her present-moment experience.

In holistic law, the attorney works closely with the client to heighten his or her consciousness in a way that is conducive to identification of optimal solutions and approaches. Without this process – usually ignored by traditional law practice – the likely best case scenario outcome will be some short-term sense of vindication and/or financial compensation that will soon leave the client feeling unsatisfied. In the process, the attorney has missed an opportunity to provide lasting, sometimes transformational, solutions to the client.

To learn more about holistic law practice, call Michael Lubofsky, Esq. at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.Holistic-Lawyer.com.

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A Blueprint for Avoiding Legal Problems

A casual analysis seems to reveal a correlation between unhappiness and legal difficulties. What is confounding, of course, is whether legal problems cause people to suffer and feel unhappy, or whether unhappy people are more prone to poor decision-making that ultimately results in legal conflict. Though this correlation – to some extent – likely runs both ways, I submit that less-than-optimal decisions made by unhappy individuals driven by egoic notions of how life “should” be most often lie at the root of most legal conflict, whether civil or criminal.

The fundamental trap inheres in an unconscious identification with mind and thought as the providers of a personal identity. This “identity” is commonly understood in Western culture as the “ego.” To the extent that ego takes root as one’s personal identity or “sense of self,” one will begin to grasp, claw, protect, and react to life factors and experiences perceived as threats to the ego and (fictional) sense of self. Ultimately, it is this grasping, clinging and aversion that directly leads to a vast majority of legal conflict.

By addressing this underlying identification with the mind and thought as a sense of self in the context of resolving real-life legal issues, holistic lawyering offers the possibility of optimal solutions that can help to more meaningfully improve and even transform the lives of clients. My holistic law practice employs mindfulness training as a means of cultivating heightened awareness of present-moment experience in a way that serves to significantly loosen the grip of the ego over one’s behavior. Among the positive results of this work is a significant reduction in the likelihood of legal conflict.

To learn more about holistic lawyering and its integration of mindfulness training, contact Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263 or visit our holistic lawyer site at http://www.Holistic-Lawyer.com.

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The Holistic Lawyer Difference

The fundamental difference between holistic law and more traditional law practice can be characterized as “What is happening?” versus “What happened?”

In almost all types of civil litigation, including divorce, family law, personal injury, employment, etc., the launching point for traditional attorneys is to have the client articulate his or her cerebral recollection of a chain of past events that have led to a sense of being “wronged” or a perceived violation of the way things “should be” or “should have been.” This recollection, in the vast majority of cases, proves to consist of a story which, while bearing some relation to the truth, is usually intertwined with the ego of the individual to an extent that: (1) significantly distorts the truth; and (2) triggers habitual reactions to perceived wrongs usually unconsciously aimed at restoring the ego to its perch of prominence.

In contrast, the holistic lawyer embarks on a professional relationship by helping the client turn his or her focus and attention to what is happening as he or she sits in the attorney’s office or speaks to the attorney for the first time via some electronic medium. Upon connecting to present-moment experience, the client becomes far better able to witness ego-driven thoughts of his or her “problem” from a distance in a way that can serve to reduce the likelihood and intensity of habitual reactions to this predominantly conditioned thinking. The client is then far better able to approach his or her situation with a clarity most often lacking in a traditional approach to law practice.

The holistic lawyer serves to facilitate the client’s connection to present-moment experience through mindfulness exercises, or lines of questioning designed to focus attention to what is actually happening now – in reality – versus one’s cerebral recollection of what may have happened in the past. Only when the client is sufficiently grounded in present-moment experience are concrete legal solutions and a planned course of action defined. In this way, the holistic lawyer is better able to identify optimal legal solutions for clients that less driven by learned conditioning and habitual reactions.

To learn more about holistic lawyering, contact Holistic Lawyer Michael Lubofsky, Esq. at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.Holistic-Lawyer.com.

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Client Tip #6: Break Old Patterns

When people find themselves ensnared in legal difficulties, these problems can often be traced to long-held conditioned thinking. These entrenched ideas about how life is or should be often serves as the precursor to behaviors directly resulting in the legal issue(s) now being faced. The quality of this conditioned thinking is such that, over time, it grabs hold to energize a contrived self-concept that the ego will not easily relinquish.

For example, if drug or alcohol use has become incorporated into one’s self-concept, it will usually be just a matter of time before relationships crumble, one is arrested for drunk driving, loses a job, etc., all situations that can give rise to a host of legal difficulties.

It is only when one becomes able to create some space from learned conditioning that it becomes possible to loosen the grip of conditioned thinking and its destructive behaviors and reactions. Through mindfulness practice, one can begin to plant more firm roots in direct moment-to-moment experience. In cultivating this ability, one may come to witness arising thoughts as simply a part of one’s present moment experience, and cease to confuse these thoughts as constituting the “reality” of who he or she is.

In the end, it is the creation of space between our thoughts and direct experience that can foster a greater sense of inner peace and happiness. At the same time, our behaviors become less driven by automatic, unconscious reactions to conditioned thoughts. With heightened consciousness, when these habitual thoughts arise, one can finds a degree of choice in how to react or behave. It is at this point that one becomes better able to extricate him or herself from behavioral patters that have directly led to legal difficulties.

As a holistic lawyer, I work with clients to address issues on both experiential and practical levels. To learn more about holistic law practice, call Holistic Lawyer Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.Holistic-Lawyer.com.

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What is a Holistic Lawyer?

A holistic lawyer views legal “problems” within the infinitely broad context of the present moment. Traditional law practice places a primary focus on past events or future objectives and looks to man-made laws, regulations, and judicial opinions as providing the framework in which to remedy past “wrongs” or pursue articulated future outcomes. In contrast, holistic lawyers focus on cultivating a client’s present-moment experiential awareness as primary means of guiding remedial or future-oriented action prior to invoking one’s legal education and experience.

Most attorneys will define their practices according to substantive areas of focus such as personal injury, corporate or family law, etc. Insofar as the holistic practitioner views all life as interconnected, the holistic practice does not lend itself to definition by closed concepts such as substantive areas of practice.

The practice of a holistic lawyer incorporates far more “counseling” than that of a traditional attorney. The emphasis on the unique reality of each individual client requires that more time actually be spent with clients in an effort to cultivate mindful awareness of and attention to the unique totality of the client’s present life situation. To do this, the holistic lawyer will often conduct several counseling sessions with the client which may incorporate mindfulness techniques and strategies such as meditation.

Finally, the holistic law practice offers potential solutions to the client that go beyond the remedy of a perceived wrong or achievement of an articulated future objective. By cultivating heightened mindful awareness of present-moment reality, a client can come to better accept those life situations that may have led to or exacerbated his or her legal difficulties and begin to break free from identified conditioned thinking and habitual reactions. This shift can serve the client in positive ways by facilitating greater inner peace.

To learn more about holistic law practice, contact Holistic Lawyer Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263, or visit http://www.holistic-lawyer.com.